From Rebecca: Hi guys! So we’re back for another “Something More” talk…and this week, I kind of wanted to touch a little bit on last week’s U Love post, “Swept Away.” I could so understand that post about how the ones you love are really what matter most in life when faced with death. Maria Belon realized this truth when tragedy suddenly ripped into her life and came against her family. I think there are a lot of people that realize this truth when faced with that kind of catastrophic situation. Life is temporary and you never know what moment will be your last. And in a life or death circumstance, most people probably aren’t thinking about anything except their loved ones.
I read a book in high school that spoke about how, over the years in our society, the family unit has evolved. Before the 1900’s, families were close knit and spent a lot of time together, even after children got married and had families of their own. But, in the 1900’s, that slowly changed. Nowadays, after kids finish college, they often start a life separate from their families, seeing the family only here and there, or on major holidays. I understand that, because of certain circumstances, this is how it has to be.
There are a lot of reasons why families aren’t close, which I totally understand (just check out our post “Drama, Drama, Drama” from Jan. 25th, 2013. That’ll tell you right there how much I understand that families can’t always be close). And, I’m not saying that it’s bad for kids to grow up and have their own lives and careers….it’s important to gain independence! I’m just saying that I think, whenever possible, it’s a really great idea to try and stay as connected to family as possible, even when leading separate busy lives.
I’m an only child and have always been very close to my family. Some of that may stem from knowing about the long and difficult road it was for my parents to have me. And also the stress and suspense around my mom’s pregnancy with me, probably added to their deeper bond of love with me. But, for whatever reason, I’ve always been the kind of person that has always felt that, when it comes down to it, nothing matters more than God and the ones I love.
I treasure spending time with those I love (like family or friends). Like I said before, life is so temporary, and I don’t want to look back one day and regret not having spent time with loved ones. Now, this doesn’t mean that I’m not independent and do my own thing too. It doesn’t mean that I don’t like spending time with people other than my family. I love to hang out with friends and other people whenever I can! I enjoy that! But I also treasure the time that I do spend with my family and other people I love.
And now I’m going to be really honest….I hope that’s OK. I feel that I’m looked down on sometimes or judged by others for the closeness I have with my family. And it’s hard to not let what people think get to me, and make me change. Sometimes I’ve felt like changing who I am because of comments I’ve heard. But I know I can’t do that. I have to be comfortable with whom I am and how I relate to those I love, and to not let what other people think affect me. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what others think……..because I think it’s best for me to just love on those I love.
I encourage you, too, if at all possible, to spend time with family or other loved ones, and to cherish all the moments you have with them! And, to avoid regrets, when you are together with family try to let U Love always be at the forefront!!! K, that’s all for now! See ya’ next week!