Hi guys! So, I’m back!
I want to share something with you that I’ve actually been struggling with a little bit lately. In some of my mom’s previous posts, she mentions that being loving and forgiving is an area that usually comes easily to me. U Love? Typically, I’m pretty good at it. I’ve noticed lately, though, that I’ve been having a harder time than usual showing U Love.
Lately, if someone does something hurtful or mean to me, I haven’t been as quick to get over it as usual. Sometimes I even feel like I want to get even with whomever has offended me, which is very out of character for me. But, because I know this is wrong, I try hard to make myself forgive them and not stay upset. Yet, no matter how hard I try, I still, at times, struggle with feelings of resentment. Have you ever felt like that? You try and try so hard not to be unloving towards someone, but no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to show U Love?
I’ve given this a lot of thought. And finally, I felt like God showed me something significant. I was struggling with overlooking offenses, and not being able to love and forgive others, because I wasn’t feeling like God was loving and forgiving me. You may remember I’ve mentioned in other posts, that I can be kind of tough on myself about this point, i.e., feeling like God loves and forgives me. That’s something I’ve had to work on.
So, when God showed me this, it was like a light bulb went off. It made perfect sense! Of course I would have trouble freely giving something I felt like I wasn’t being freely given. In fact, one day when I was having a hard time feeling God’s love and forgiveness, He led me to look up the definition of forgiveness in the dictionary. I have to say, what I read, surprised me.
According to the Dictionary, forgiveness is “To excuse for a fault or an offense; pardon; to renounce from payment; to cease to blame or hold resentment against someone or something; to grant pardon for a mistake, wrongdoing, etc.; to free or pardon (someone) from penalty.” You see, I had thought forgiveness was primarily not holding resentment against someone in your heart, not holding against them whatever wrong they did to you. But you can see that this definition goes further than that.
The definition seems to indicate that forgiveness isn’t just about not resenting someone who has wronged us, but it’s also about not taking revenge on the person either. It’s about not making them pay for whatever they did. It’s pardoning them. I have to say I didn’t realize that. This definition puts forgiveness in a new light for me. And, if this is man’s definition of forgiveness, how much more loving, forgiving, and merciful would God’s (who is the epitome of ultimate U Love) definition of forgiveness be? If you think about it, the perfect forgiveness God shows us is astounding!
Once I realized what true forgiveness was, and how God freely showed it to me, it made me so excited, that I wanted to start showing it to others again, too. As I accept that no matter what, God is right there loving me unconditionally, not holding things against me, and pardoning me for any wrongs I’ve done, how can I not want to show that to others? I feel liberated and thankful for the love and forgiveness I’ve been shown. The end result is that I’m much less bothered by what others do; and I’m feeling more like I WANT to (as opposed to have to) show them the same love and forgiveness I’ve received. Gosh, this is becoming a big love fest!! LOL!
Hopefully, you’re starting to see (especially from other posts I’ve written such as “People-Pleasing Pushover”), that not truly receiving God’s U Love can lead to a number of yucky issues all sourced in one place (not receiving God’s U Love). So, I’m continuing to work on accepting the fact that God freely forgives me and loves me unconditionally. (He loves you that way, too!) This releases me to unconditionally love and forgive others as well. I’m finding this makes life A LOT more enjoyable!
See ya’ next week! And don’t forget to join our U Love chain right here!