Have you ever heard the saying, “I’ll forgive, but I’ll never forget?” I’ve seen sayings, or ones like that, plenty of times before. I can’t help but think that this saying is just the opposite of the principles of U Love, which say, “love keeps no record of wrongs.”
So I wonder, is it really true forgiveness if we say we’re forgiving someone for something, but then hold on to what they did to us within our hearts? I’m not sure if you can have one without the other. Can you have forgiveness without letting go of the hurt that was inflicted on you? In my opinion, I think for the most part, one cannot truly forgive without releasing within one’s heart the offense done to you.
Now, I completely understand that this is no easy task. I know from experience! There have been times in the past where I would keep telling myself that I had forgiven someone for something, but then every time I would see or think of that person, the wrong they had done to me would immediately come to the forefront of my mind. Boom!!! I’d feel that “high octane ping” go off, and the wrong the person had done to me would continually re-enter my mind. This would indicate to me that I hadn’t truly forgiven them.
See, if I had fully forgiven them, I wouldn’t be thinking of the offense or getting a high-octane ping anymore. I knew this was something I had to fix since I was determined to show U love to others. So, who do I look to for my example of U love? God. And the Bible is where I go to see how He shows U love to all of us.
Here are a few scripture verses I found about how God shows us U Love:
Psalm 103:8-13: “The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will He keep His anger forever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His steadfast love toward those who fear him. As far as east is from the west, so far does He remove our transgressions from us.”
Jeremiah 31:34 : “For I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin NO MORE.”
So, it looks to me like when God forgives us, he doesn’t remember the wrongs anymore! That’s incredibly GOOD news!!! Phew!! So if God doesn’t remember our wrongs when He forgives us, then I don’t want to keep bringing to mind the wrongs done to me when I forgive others. And, if you really think about it logically, is it actually a loving thing to keep a record of all the wrongs done to us anyway? It doesn’t seem like it to me.
And, ultimately, when we hold onto the hurts inflicted on us, it only ends up hurting ourselves. You feel such a release when you just let go and choose to love and forgive!! Now, I’m not saying that you should let someone who continually hurts you just walk all over you. In some cases, one has to take certain measures to not allow yourself to be continually hurt. I’m talking more about a heart issue here, of truly forgiving and not keeping a record of wrongs within our hearts.
So, on my journey towards U Love, I’ve been working on forgiving others; letting go of the wrongs done to me; releasing others by not keeping a record of wrongs, and then feeling a release for myself. It all works out very well.
In conclusion, I’d like to add an awesome quote by Robert E. Lee, which I think sums up everything I’ve been saying in this post. It reads:
“The gentleman does not needlessly and unnecessarily remind an offender of a wrong he may have committed against him. He can not only forgive; he can forget; and he strives for that nobleness of self and mildness of character which imparts sufficient strength to let the past be put in the past.”
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